The Waves

It’s OK to Hate Your Spouse (Sometimes)

Ask Polly author Heather Havrilesky on why a dull marriage might, actually, be good for you.


Episode Notes

On this week’s episode of The Waves, Slate senior editor Shannon Palus talks with Heather Havrilesky about the divine tedium of marriage. They discuss Heather’s book, Foreverland and the explosive response the book initially got (especially when Heather called her husband “a heap of laundry”). Later in the show, they dig into what to do when your husband is truly being a little bit of a patriarchal jerk.

In Slate Plus, a behind the scenes look at what goes into writing the Ask Polly column.

Podcast production by Cheyna Roth and Tori Dominguez with editorial oversight by Daisy Rosario and Alicia Montgomery.

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Each week a pair of writers and guests talk through one news story we can’t stop thinking about, and unpack what gender has to do with it.

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