Mom and Dad Are Fighting

Supporting Gender Expression and Exploration

Slate’s parenting podcast on helping kids (and parents) understand gender.


Episode Notes

On this episode: Zak, Jamilah, and Elizabeth advise a parent whose first grader got mad at her for looking up ‘girl sweaters’ online. The first grader has also previously said that they want to be a boy, not a girl. Our letter writer wants to be supportive but doesn’t know if she should go all-in or sit back and let her kid reveal who they are.

Additional resources:
The Center
How to Be a Girl 
Supporting My Nonbinary Teen (Part one of Teen Talk)

We also have an exciting update from the listener who couldn’t handle the seatbelt war and occasionally let them drive unbuckled.

Jamilah recommends chicken with miso caramelized apples, based on this pork chop recipe.
Elizabeth recommends Dot to Dot In the Sky: Stories of the Aurora by Joan Marie Galat
Zak recommends this Naomi Fisher Twitter thread on child development

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson and Kristie Taiwo-Makanjuola.

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About the Show

Jamilah Lemieux, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.

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