Mom and Dad Are Fighting

The “Vanilla Sex” Edition

Slate’s parenting podcast debates how to respond to a teen asking about kinks.


Episode Notes

On this week’s episode: Dan is back from book leave and has an announcement. Dan, Jamilah, and Elizabeth answer a wild question about a teen asking if her mom has “vanilla sex.” How should the parent respond to an intensely personal question like that? Then Elizabeth and Jamilah pepper Dan with questions about his time on the show, including his biggest regret. On Slate Plus, if you could swap bodies w/ your kid for a day—Freaky Friday style—would you?

Elizabeth recommends When Stars are Scattered by Omar Mohamed and Victoria Jamieson.
Dan recommends Turning Red.
Jamilah recommends Season 2 of Love Is Blind

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.


About the Show

Jamilah Lemieux, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.

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