Mom and Dad Are Fighting

There’s No Such Thing as a Polite 3-Year-Old

Slate’s parenting podcast debates how to handle an obstinate “threenager.”


Episode Notes

On this week’s episode: Jamilah, Elizabeth and Rebecca answer a question about a mother who “feels like less of a parent” now that she shares 50/50 custody of her daughter, post separation. They also answer a question about how to teach a “threenager” to be polite.

In Slate Plus: We reflect on Ruth Bader Ginsburg’s passing. Sign up for Slate Plus.


Elizabeth recommends actually using your fancy dishes.

Rebecca recommends making the switch to cloth napkins. Bonus recommendation for adults: watch Borgen.

Jamilah recommends Celestial Seasonings’ Lemon Lavender Lane tea.

Additional Recommendations:
The Kids Are Asleep, the hilarious Slate Live show. Catch it via Slate’s Facebook or YouTube on Thursdays at 10:00 p.m. ET / 7:00 p.m. PT.

Ruth Bader Ginsburg Has Died at 87 by Mark Joseph Stern
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Ruth Bader Ginsburg Changed the World by Mark Joseph Stern
What Ruth Bader Ginsburg Would Want America to Do Now by Dahlia Lithwick
“She Stood for America. She Stood for Our Values.” by Joshua Keating
The Quieter Reason RBG’s Death Is Such a Blow by Mary Harris
A 5-Decade-Long Friendship That Began With A Phone Call by Nina Totenberg
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Jamilah Lemieux, Elizabeth Newcamp, and Zak Rosen share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.

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