Mom and Dad Are Fighting

The Basketball Families Edition

Slate’s parenting podcast debates if a dad should quit assistant coaching the all-encompassing varsity basketball team.

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Episode Notes

On this week’s episode: A question from a mom who is feeling like the only parent at home due to her husband’s time-consuming commitment to assistant coaching a high school basketball team. Also, Jamilah wrote about her experience talking about Kobe Bryant’s death in this week’s Care and Feeding column. The hosts discuss Bryant, his daughter Gianna, and the challenge of talking about death with kids.

During the discussion Elizabeth recommended two books: Margaret Wise Brown’s The Dead Bird and Melanie Watt’s Bug in a Vacuum.

For Slate Plus, the hosts answer a second listener question from a mother-to-be wondering how she can preemptively set family boundaries with her eager in-laws. Sign up for Slate Plus here.


Dan recommends an adhesive whiteboard to transform your non-magnetic refrigerator into a centralized family bulletin board. Just don’t forget to remove the plastic lining!

Jamilah recommends Cartoon Beatbox Battles on YouTube.

Elizabeth recommends Stick-lets - little silicone rings that keep sticks together to help build things… like forts!

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Podcast produced by Rosemary Belson.

About the Show

Jamilah Lemieux and Dan Kois share triumphs and fails and offer advice on parenting kids from toddler to teens.

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