Man Up

Why Straight Bros Are Important to Gay Guys

It’s often a symptom of an internal struggle.


Episode Notes

This week on the show, Sam, a gay man in Maine, tries to figure out how to develop closer friendships with straight men. But first, Man Up host Aymann Ismail tries to understand why Sam has his heart set on those friendships in the first place. For additional help, the guys turn to Alex DeLuca, founder of the “Gaybros” subreddit, which was originally a forum for gay men who felt like they didn’t identify with mainstream gay culture. These days, Alex is critical of the mindset that spawned Gaybros, and in this episode, he uses the lessons he learned to help Sam get to the root of his problem.

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Podcast production by Cameron Drews.


About the Show

On Man Up, host Aymann Ismail invites men and women to tell embarrassing, funny, and sometimes disturbing stories about their lives as they try to figure out what they still have to learn—and unlearn—about being a man. They’ll talk relationships, family, sex, and identity, trying to understand their experiences to help listeners make more sense of their own.

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