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Why Can’t My Wife and I Pray Together?

How to be a Muslim feminist when you confront segregated mosques every week.

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Episode Notes

After years of entering Muslim prayer spaces and mosques through separate entrances than his wife, Aymann tries to find an alternative. First, he talks to his wife, Mira, about the difference between men’s spaces and women’s spaces during prayer. Then Imam Khalid Latif joins the show to explain the origin of gender separation in mosques and how the various ways to interpret scripture and cultural teachings can offer a solution.

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On Man Up, host Aymann Ismail invites men and women to tell embarrassing, funny, and sometimes disturbing stories about their lives as they try to figure out what they still have to learn—and unlearn—about being a man. They’ll talk relationships, family, sex, and identity, trying to understand their experiences to help listeners make more sense of their own.

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