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About Guys Who Insist on Paying the Bill …

If you’re fighting your date for the check, it’s probably about more than being “polite.”

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Episode Notes

This week, Aymann looks back at some of his dating habits from before he was married, specifically his policy of always paying on the first date. First he talks to Sarah Crow, who wrote a piece for GQ called “Why You Should Always Split the Bill.” She says that despite some men’s good intentions, dating dynamics can put women in an uncomfortable position. Then writer Magdalene Taylor joins the show to explain why some women, including herself, actually still want to be paid for on dates.

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On Man Up, host Aymann Ismail invites men and women to tell embarrassing, funny, and sometimes disturbing stories about their lives as they try to figure out what they still have to learn—and unlearn—about being a man. They’ll talk relationships, family, sex, and identity, trying to understand their experiences to help listeners make more sense of their own.

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