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How To Stop “Having It All” (Before You End Up With Nothing)

Amy Westervelt on the seemingly impossible task of balancing work, life and kids.


Episode Notes

Janey is the very definition of a woman trying to “have it all.” She’s an occupational therapist by day, a ghost writer for influencers by night and in between co-hosts a podcast. On top of that, she has two sons who play travel sports and a husband who works long hours. It’s left Janey wondering if she’ll ever catch her breath. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Amy Westervelt, who’s no slouch herself. She’s a journalist, host of the award-winning podcast Drilled, a busy mom and author of the book Forget “Having It All”: How America Messed Up Motherhood, and How to Fix It. She shares with Janey how trying to “have it all” almost left her with nothing. It’s advice that all of us can use to rebalance our lives and reprioritize what’s important.

Check out Amy’s invisible labor calculator.

If you liked this episode, check out “How To Advance Your Career by Quitting Your Job.”

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Podcast production by Derek John and Rosemary Belson.


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