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The Single Most Important Thing to Know Before Becoming a Single Parent

How to raise a kid by yourself.


Episode Notes

Stacie is in her early 30s and is ready to have a baby. There’s just one problem—she doesn’t have a partner. As much as she wants to be a mom, Stacie is worried about being a single parent by choice. On this episode of How To!, we bring on Lori Gottlieb, therapist, author of Maybe You Should Talk to Someone, and solo mom herself. Lori opens about her own experience having her son on her own, navigating people’s judgment, and finding ways to consider herself “enough” as a single parent. The hardest part? “Every decision you make is ultimately yours. On the one hand, that might seem liberating, but on the other hand, it’s very paralzying because there’s so much pressure,” Lori says. What does Stacie ultimately decide?

If you liked this episode, check out: “How To Decide Whether to have a Baby” and “How To Talk to Your Son About Sex.”

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Podcast production by Derek John, Rachael Allen, and Rosemary Belson.


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