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How To Walk Away From an Impossible Parent

Knowing when to mend fences, and when to move on.


Episode Notes

When Sydney’s dad texted her “Do me a favor and lose my number,” she was crushed. At 27, Sydney has always had a rocky relationship with her dad, but she’d held out hope he’d still be a part of her life. Now she’s starting to think it may be a lost cause. On this episode of How To!, we bring in Joshua Coleman, a psychologist and author of the upcoming book Rules of Estrangement, who had his own yearslong standoff with his daughter. Before Sydney figures out if she should reconcile with her dad, Josh says, she has to stop internalizing how he treats her. It’s the parent’s job to be mature and if they can’t do that, you shouldn’t beat yourself up over their failings. In the end, the best thing may be to just move on without them.

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Podcast production by Derek John and Rachael Allen.


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