How to Do It

Your wildest sex advice questions, now in your headphones.

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About the Show

For three years, Stoya and Rich Juzwiak have been giving advice to Slate readers on all things sex—mismatched libidos, secret desires, (bad) sexting, surprising fetishes, and assorted other wild things. Now they’re joining forces to answer their most jaw-dropping questions yet, sometimes with the help of special guests. Whatever you want to know about sex—truly, whatever—they’ll tell you how to do it.

Got a question for Stoya and Rich? Send it anonymously here or leave a voicemail at (347) 640-4025 and we may use it on the show.

Hosts

  • Jessica Stoya is a writer, performer, and pornographer. She is the author of Philosophy, Pussycats, & Porn, published by Not a Cult.

  • Rich Juzwiak is a senior writer for Jezebel. He has written for the New York Times, the Washington Post, Gawker, and previously gave advice in the web series Pot Psychology.

My Boyfriend Loves Dirty Talk. But He Doesn’t Say the One Thing I Want.

It feels really unfair.

I’m Overwhelmed by My Boyfriend’s Sexual Demands

I feel like I’m losing my mind.

The One Thing My Partner Desires in Bed Makes Me Gag

I think it’s a texture thing.

My Girlfriend Insisted I Have Sex With Another Man

This is not what I thought would happen.

I’m a Woman With a Very Male Sex Problem

Plot twist.

I Will Never Live Down What My Girlfriend Just Saw Me Doing

Truly a nightmare.

The Simple Way to Have Better Sex After Marriage

It’s easier than it seems.

The Woman I’m Seeing Has No Idea I Know Her Secret

I’m not sure how to tell her.

I (Unfortunately) Know What My Husband Has Been Doing in the Garage

I’m only hurt because of the other reason.

Is Porn Addiction a Real Thing?

A sex therapist explains how to help someone who’s worried about their porn use or sexual desires.

I’ve Only Just Discovered What Really Turns Me On. But What Is This Even Called?

And how do I tell my wife?

What I Never Want to Hear From a Woman Before Sex

And they seem so thrilled to say it.

What Everyone Gets Wrong About Herpes

A doctor explains whether a woman’s new boyfriend is right about their herpes risk.

I Had Sex With My Close Male Friend. Big Mistake.

I just want to know what happened.

I’m Worried About Cheating on My Girlfriend With My Wife

Let me explain.

No One Tells You What Happens When You’re Suddenly a Hot Guy

The women in their 20s are the worst.

I Have “COVID Dick.” Can I… Grow It Back?

This is a nightmare.

My Boyfriend Avoids Sex. I Found an Unsettling Solution.

I’m too scared to tell him.

My Husband Tried Something “New” With His Penis. I’m Dying.

A great modern sex debate arrives in my household.

I Can’t Believe What My Hookup Said to Me in Bed

Should I give him another chance after this?