Dear Prudence

I Saved My Neighbor’s Life And Now She Won’t Leave Me Alone. Help!

I don’t like being around her, and I’m starting to wonder if I made a mistake in helping her.


Episode Notes

In this episode, Kelsey McKinney (host of Radiotopia’s Normal Gossip and co-owner of joins Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) to answer your letters from readers about who to share random thoughts with after your spouse dies, what to do when you’ve saved a neighbor’s life but don’t want to be friends with her, and how to handle petty insults in the family group chat.

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Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario, with help from Brandon Nix.


About the Show

Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice podcast, where Prudie responds to your questions about relationships at home, work, and beyond. Join “Prudie” Jenée Desmond Harris and a guest each week as they offer helpful answers to your problems. Need help? Ask Prudie.

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  • Jenée Desmond-Harris is a Slate staff writer and editor. She writes the Dear Prudence advice column and previously worked at the New York Times, and the Root.