Dear Prudence

My Mom Doesn’t Think My Fiancé Is Enough. Help!

My mom said she doesn’t think my fiancé is thin, attractive, or intelligent enough for me, and now their relationship is fractured.


Episode Notes

In this episode, Prudie (Jenée Desmond-Harris) answers questions from letter writers who are dealing with judgemental parents, homophobic in-laws, and neighbors who throw dog poop over the fence.
Mark Joseph Stern (a Slate senior writer) joins to share advice on what to do.

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Podcast production by Se’era Spragley Ricks and Daisy Rosario.


About the Show

Dear Prudence is Slate’s advice podcast, where Prudie responds to your questions about relationships at home, work, and beyond. Join “Prudie” Jenée Desmond Harris and a guest each week as they offer helpful answers to your problems. Need help? Ask Prudie.

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  • Mark Joseph Stern is a Slate senior writer.

  • Jenée Desmond-Harris is a Slate staff writer and editor. She writes the Dear Prudence advice column and previously worked at the New York Times, and the Root.