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My teenager prefers the pronouns “it/its.” Help!

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Episode Notes

Prudence is joined this week by Charlie Jane Anders, the author of Victories Greater Than Death, the first book in a new young adult trilogy, along with the forthcoming short story collection Even Greater Mistakes. She’s also the co-host of the podcast, Our Opinions Are Correct, along with Annalee Newitz.

Prudie and Anders tackle letters about how to support your brother in his new relationship when you’re uncomfortable with their age gap, what actions to take when you’re living with family who neglect the needs of their toddler, and what to consider when your teenager prefers the pronouns “it/its.”

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