Big Mood, Little Mood

The “Claiming Distant Ancestry” Edition

I used to claim Mexican heritage, even though I’m white. How should I address this now that I know better? Help!


Episode Notes

Prudence is joined this week by Harry Eskin, a moving-image archivist based in Los Angeles.

Prudie and Eskin dig into letters about if you should apologize for past conversations where you claim a heritage that you truly don’t identify as, how to talk to your mother about the way she neglected your sibling when you were children, and should you preemptively write an apology on LinkedIn for a racist costume you wore for your employer 10 years ago.

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Production by Phil Surkis.


About the Show

Every week, Danny M. Lavery brings on a guest to answer questions from listeners before diving into conversation about relationships, dissatisfaction, drives, regrets, estrangement, embarrassment, self-assessments, and feelings from the monumental to the minute.

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