Dear Prudence

The “Citation, Please” Edition

I’m asked to cite evidence every time I talk to my husband. Help!

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Episode Notes

Prudence is joined this week by Leigh Bardugo, the New York Times­–bestselling author of Ninth House and the creator of the Grishaverse (coming soon to Netflix). Her short stories can be found in multiple anthologies, including Best American Science Fiction and Fantasy.

Prudie and Bardugo dig into letters about how to support your nonbinary child while avoiding their abusive father, how to handle your boss’s wife who’s always sharing hateful gossip with you, what to consider when you miss a relative that may not like you, and what to do when intellectual debates with your husband always turn into arguments.

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Production by Phil Surkis.


About the Show

Whether it’s a challenge with a lover, a fight with a difficult roommate or boss, or you just like to hear about the challenges other people face, Dear Prudence is the podcast for you. Every week, Prudie and special guests answer questions about relationships, sex, work, family, and life.

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