Dear Prudence

The “Caring or Controlling?” Edition

My partner questions every little thing I do. Help!

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Episode Notes

Prudence is joined this week by Rax King, the James Beard award–nominated writer of Tacky (forthcoming from Vintage Books in 2021), as well as the host of the podcast Low Culture Boil.

Prudie and King dig into letters about whether you should hire someone who shares a last name with the most prominent Nazi who ever lived, what to consider when your wife tells the same stories over and over again, what actions to take with a partner who irritably asks you questions about everything you do, how to express to your therapist that it may be time to take a break, and how to be less judgmental of your friends on social media.

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Production by Phil Surkis.


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Whether it’s a challenge with a lover, a fight with a difficult roommate or boss, or you just like to hear about the challenges other people face, Dear Prudence is the podcast for you. Every week, Prudie and special guests answer questions about relationships, sex, work, family, and life.

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