Dear Prudence

The “Trigger Talk” Edition

When my family casually talks about sexual abuse, they don’t know that it’s happened to me, and it’s triggering. Help!

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Episode Notes

Prudence is joined this week by Davey Davis, who writes about culture and sexuality. Their first novel, The Earthquake Room, is available through TigerBee Press. They write a newsletter about people named David at

Prudie and Davis tackle letters about what to do when your father refuses your attempts at reconciliation, how to steer your family away from triggering you during quarantine, and what to consider when sharing your traumatic past with potential partners. Plus, they respond to a voicemail from a woman who is trying to forgive herself for being in a transactional sex arrangement with someone she now finds repulsive.

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Production by Phil Surkis.


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Whether it’s a challenge with a lover, a fight with a difficult roommate or boss, or you just like to hear about the challenges other people face, Dear Prudence is the podcast for you. Every week, Prudie and special guests answer questions about relationships, sex, work, family, and life.

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