Dear Prudence

The “Sidepiece Spouse” Edition

My husband says he hates our children and wants to leave them, but also stay married to me. Help!

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Episode Notes

Prudence is joined this week by Alicia Harris, a self-described public health nerd based in Oakland, California. Harris works as a foundation program officer, directing resources to reproductive health rights and justice organizations.

Prudie and Harris dig into letters about if it’s OK to cheat if you haven’t had sex in your marriage for five years, what to do when your husband moves out because he hates being a father but still wants to see you, what to ask your students to call you when you’re trans and still exploring your identity, and whether you should hide your relationship in an area where you are legally below the age of consent.

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Production by Phil Surkis.


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Whether it’s a challenge with a lover, a fight with a difficult roommate or boss, or you just like to hear about the challenges other people face, Dear Prudence is the podcast for you. Every week, Prudie and special guests answer questions about relationships, sex, work, family, and life.

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