Dear Prudence

The “Detachment Guilt” Edition

I constantly think about abandoning my disabled spouse. Help!

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Episode Notes

Prudence is joined this week by Charlie Markbreiter, an editor at the New Inquiry, co-host of the “Art is Easy” gathering, mod prince at the Death Panel Discord, and a Ph.D. student at the CUNY Graduate Center.

Prudie and Markbreiter tackle letters that ask if it’s unethical to apply to a job you don’t really need when unemployment is so high, what to consider after cheating on your live-in partner with someone in your new apartment complex, whether you should worry about enabling internalized racism because you’re dating a Black man, and what to do when you constantly think about abandoning your disabled spouse.

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Whether it’s a challenge with a lover, a fight with a difficult roommate or boss, or you just like to hear about the challenges other people face, Dear Prudence is the podcast for you. Every week, Prudie and special guests answer questions about relationships, sex, work, family, and life.

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