Big Mood, Little Mood

The “Detachment Guilt” Edition

I constantly think about abandoning my disabled spouse. Help!

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Episode Notes

Prudence is joined this week by Charlie Markbreiter, an editor at the New Inquiry, co-host of the “Art is Easy” gathering, mod prince at the Death Panel Discord, and a Ph.D. student at the CUNY Graduate Center.

Prudie and Markbreiter tackle letters that ask if it’s unethical to apply to a job you don’t really need when unemployment is so high, what to consider after cheating on your live-in partner with someone in your new apartment complex, whether you should worry about enabling internalized racism because you’re dating a Black man, and what to do when you constantly think about abandoning your disabled spouse.

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Every week, Danny M. Lavery brings on a guest to answer questions from listeners before diving into conversation about relationships, dissatisfaction, drives, regrets, estrangement, embarrassment, self-assessments, and feelings from the monumental to the minute.

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