Dear Prudence

The “Not Quilty” Edition

My partner has gone completely overboard in decorating our home with their mother’s quilts. Help!

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Episode Notes

Prudence is joined this week by Jennifer M. Buck, an assistant professor of practical theology at Azusa Pacific University. Her books and research explore themes of global Christianity, Quakerism, gender, race, and popular culture. She also is a licensed minister and helps pastor a church in Pasadena, California, where she lives with her husband and foster son.

Prudie and Buck tackle letters about what to do when your husband reveals that he’s competitive with you about weight loss, should you feel guilty about thinking about future partners while taking care of your wife who has cancer, what to do when your partner’s mom furnishes your home with lots of homemade quilts, how to protect your grandniece from her abusive father, and what to consider when your boyfriend refuses to marry you, even for the purpose of sharing health care.

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Whether it’s a challenge with a lover, a fight with a difficult roommate or boss, or you just like to hear about the challenges other people face, Dear Prudence is the podcast for you. Every week, Prudie and special guests answer questions about relationships, sex, work, family, and life.

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