Dear Prudence

The “I Can’t Quit You” Edition

I’m happily married with two kids. I’ve also had a secret lover for 15 years. Help!

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Episode Notes

Prudence is joined this week by novelist A.E. Osworth. Their first book, We Are Watching Eliza Bright, is forthcoming from Grand Central Publishing in April 2021. They teach creative writing at the New School, Catapult, Fledgling, and the New York Society Library.

Prudie and Osworth dig into letters about what to do about the ongoing affair you’ve kept from your spouse for years, how to handle a roommate who abandoned your apartment and left you with all the responsibility, whether you have to reveal all of your dietary habits to potential roommates, how to get a sense of closure after being randomly cut off from a boyfriend, and what to consider if you’re unsure about going on your first same-sex date.

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Production by Phil Surkis.

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Whether it’s a challenge with a lover, a fight with a difficult roommate or boss, or you just like to hear about the challenges other people face, Dear Prudence is the podcast for you. Every week, Prudie and special guests answer questions about relationships, sex, work, family, and life.

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