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The “Open Phone Policy” Edition

My friend’s husband reads all our private texts. Help!

Episode Notes

This week’s miniepisode finds Prudence visited by Emily VanDerWerff, critic at large for Vox. VanDerWerff is the co-creator of the fiction podcast Arden and co-author of the book Monsters of the Week: The Complete Critical Companion to The X-Files.

Prudie and VanDerWerff discuss a letter writer who’s holding the secret that her deceased brother had a long-term affair with his ex-wife while married with a new child, what to do when your mom keeps delaying the ceremony for your dad’s ashes, and what to consider after finding out that private texts you sent to your friend are also read by her husband.

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About the Show

Whether it’s a challenge with a lover, a fight with a difficult roommate or boss, or you just like to hear about the challenges other people face, Dear Prudence is the podcast for you. Every week, Prudie and special guests answer questions about relationships, sex, work, family, and life.

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