Dear Prudence

The “Accidentally on Purpose” Edition

Should I admit to my husband that I tricked him into having another child? Help!

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Episode Notes

Prudence is joined this week by Elizabeth Sampat, a game developer, writer, and troublemaker whose work has been covered in Vice, Polygon, and the L.A. Times.

Prudie and Sampat dig into letters about what to consider when your biological mom doesn’t acknowledge your relationship on social media, what to do when you see that your teenage daughter was “sexting” with her friends, whether you should keep paying a beloved nanny even though she no longer watches your kids, how to handle a heterosexual friend who frequently calls herself gay, and whether you should tell your husband that you tricked him into having your third child.

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Production by Phil Surkis.


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Whether it’s a challenge with a lover, a fight with a difficult roommate or boss, or you just like to hear about the challenges other people face, Dear Prudence is the podcast for you. Every week, Prudie and special guests answer questions about relationships, sex, work, family, and life.

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