Dear Prudence

The “Kitty Obstruction” Edition

My roommate keeps bringing out her cat to interrupt my dates. Help!

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Episode Notes

Prudence is joined this week by Shruti Swamy, author of the short story collection A House Is a Body and the recipient of two O. Henry Awards. She lives in San Francisco.

Prudie and Swamy tackle letters about how to handle a roommate who insists on interrupting your dates by bringing her cat out to play with you, what to do about being excluded from friends’ social events because you’re single, how to decline a friend’s wedding due to pandemic concerns and not offend them, whether you should see the same therapist as your crush, and what actions to take with a close friend who only talks about themselves.

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Production by Phil Surkis.

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Whether it’s a challenge with a lover, a fight with a difficult roommate or boss, or you just like to hear about the challenges other people face, Dear Prudence is the podcast for you. Every week, Prudie and special guests answer questions about relationships, sex, work, family, and life.

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