Big Mood, Little Mood

The “Don’t Get Me Wrong” Edition

 I found out my girlfriend once said Black people weren’t “her type.” I’m Black. Help!

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Episode Notes

Prudence is joined this week by Krystal Farmer, who works in book publishing and lives in Oakland, California.

Prudie and Farmer tackle letters about whether you should move from your lover’s house because you don’t see a future together even though all is fine at the moment, what to do when the biological father of your baby—a much younger man you had a fling with—wants to be part of your child’s life, what to consider when you’ve been gifted secondhand clothes that the original owner now wants back, and how to handle discovering a racist conversation your girlfriend had on Facebook years ago.

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Production by Phil Surkis.


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Every week, Danny M. Lavery brings on a guest to answer questions from listeners before diving into conversation about relationships, dissatisfaction, drives, regrets, estrangement, embarrassment, self-assessments, and feelings from the monumental to the minute.

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