Dear Prudence

The “Oh, Now I’m Essential?” Edition

My mom used to look down on me for working at the grocery store. Now she’s calling me a hero on social media. Help!

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Episode Notes

Prudence is joined this week by Justine D’Souza, who creates help content for a not-for-profit organization focused on international education and global mobility. She also counsels youth, young adults, and caregivers for a crisis helpline.

Prudie and D’Souza dig into letters about what to do with a mother who only became proud of your grocery store job in light of the pandemic; what to know about a fiancé with an annual ritual of honoring his former fiancée who was murdered; should you demand that your son’s girlfriend, who moved into your home, go on birth control; how to handle a partner who, even though you’re expecting a baby, doesn’t watch his finances; and what to do when your husband doesn’t stand up to his dad for making “creepy old man” comments to you on social media.

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Production by Phil Surkis.


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Whether it’s a challenge with a lover, a fight with a difficult roommate or boss, or you just like to hear about the challenges other people face, Dear Prudence is the podcast for you. Every week, Prudie and special guests answer questions about relationships, sex, work, family, and life.

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