Dear Prudence

The “Feminist Breast Lift” Edition

I used to think cosmetic surgery was lame and dumb, but now I’m starting to want to get some. Help!

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Episode Notes

Prudence is joined this week by Calvin Kasulke, a writer, podcast producer, and transsexual living in Brooklyn. His work has been featured in outlets including Mel magazine, Vice, Electric Literature, and BuzzFeed.

Prudie and Kasulke dig into letters about what to consider about getting a breast lift as a reward for achieving a weight goal, how to get people to use your full name without sounding like a snob, whether you should let your best friend know that her friends made an insulting gay comment to you at her last party, what to do when the sound of a co-worker’s voice irritates you, and whether you should correct the misconception that your sister is transphobic, even though you don’t speak to her anymore.

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Production by Phil Surkis.

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Whether it’s a challenge with a lover, a fight with a difficult roommate or boss, or you just like to hear about the challenges other people face, Dear Prudence is the podcast for you. Every week, Prudie and special guests answer questions about relationships, sex, work, family, and life.

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