Dear Prudence

The “Why Do I Spy?” Edition

I left my toxic job but I can’t stop snooping in on what’s going on there. Help!

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Episode Notes

Prudence is joined this week by Jason Carini, an attorney who works in recruiting for the legal industry in the San Francisco Bay Area.

Prudie and Carini tackle letters about what to do when you can’t help snooping for dirt on a job you left acrimoniously, how to deal with a co-worker’s frequent incoming personal calls, what actions to take when the temperature at work gets so hot that you feel ill, what to do when your relationship with your dad changes because he stopped paying alimony to your mom, how to talk to your sister about preparing to be a caregiver for your parents, and how to handle resentment towards friends who seem to care more about animal rights than the suffering of humans.

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Production by Phil Surkis.


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Whether it’s a challenge with a lover, a fight with a difficult roommate or boss, or you just like to hear about the challenges other people face, Dear Prudence is the podcast for you. Every week, Prudie and special guests answer questions about relationships, sex, work, family, and life.

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