Dear Prudence

The “Bisexual Dating Tips” Edition

I’ve never had any problem dating men, but I keep striking out with women. What trick am I missing? Help!

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Episode Notes

Prudence is joined this week by Jordan Blok, a queer nonbinary science communicator, research administrator, and hoop earring enthusiast based out of L.A., and Prudie regular Grace Lavery, an associate professor of English at the University of California, Berkeley.

Prudie, Blok, and Lavery dig into letters about what to do when new friends who are a couple may be coming on to you; what to consider with a boyfriend who seems to be homophobic, stemming from a childhood sexual assault; what to do when you strike out dating women after having had no problem dating men; whether an annulment means you’re divorced or you were never married; and whether you should oblige your abusive ex-wife’s request to process your divorce in therapy 25 years after the fact.

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Whether it’s a challenge with a lover, a fight with a difficult roommate or boss, or you just like to hear about the challenges other people face, Dear Prudence is the podcast for you. Every week, Prudie and special guests answer questions about relationships, sex, work, family, and life.

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