Dear Prudence

The “Morning Buns” Edition

We’ve been able to see our neighbors naked on the toilet every day for two years. How do we tell them? Help!

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Episode Notes

Prudence is joined this week by Elizabeth Freeman, a professor of English at the University of California, Davis, specializing in, among other things, gender and sexuality studies.

Prudie and Freeman dig into letters about what to do when you feel like your bisexuality alienates you from most relationships, how to know if it’s safe to come out to your previously homophobic but now mellowed-out parents, what actions to take when you discover that your teenage son has been secretly filming his sexual encounters with his younger girlfriend, whether you should tell your neighbors that you’ve had a view of their bathroom for years, and what to consider when you feel sad about your perfectly wonderful life, as it’s still not the life you dreamed about. And the episode concludes with a somewhat sticky story from Freeman that you won’t want to miss!

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Whether it’s a challenge with a lover, a fight with a difficult roommate or boss, or you just like to hear about the challenges other people face, Dear Prudence is the podcast for you. Every week, Prudie and special guests answer questions about relationships, sex, work, family, and life.

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