Dear Prudence

The “Some of Us Work” Edition

My visiting friends had planned to stay at my home only for a weekend—but now they’re asking to stay for a week and bring their four kids too. Help!

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Episode Notes

Prudence is joined this week by Jae Bearhat, a Seattle-based writer, zinester, and known internet presence. Their work includes the Czap Books–published comic Little Teeth, the YouTube critique series Film Critters, and their Twitter feed @fussybabybitch.

Prudie and Bearhat tackle letters about how to decide how much to financially support a stepdaughter who squanders the money she already receives, how to handle out-of-town friends who want to visit with their four kids and stay with you instead of a hotel, what to do when a visiting friend uncomfortably infiltrates your life by flirting with your crush and using your vibrator, how to reason with your dad after he refused to let you help your mom with her debilitating disease, and how to decide if you should maintain a friendship (and secret crush) with someone who may have undiagnosed autism.

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Production by Phil Surkis.

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Whether it’s a challenge with a lover, a fight with a difficult roommate or boss, or you just like to hear about the challenges other people face, Dear Prudence is the podcast for you. Every week, Prudie and special guests answer questions about relationships, sex, work, family, and life.

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