Dear Prudence

The “In-Laws 2.0” Edition

My in-laws initially refused to accept my relationship with their daughter. Now they do, but I’m still angry at them. Help!

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Episode Notes

Prudence is joined this week by Soleil Ho, the San Francisco Chronicle’s restaurant critic. She’s written for food and pop culture publications like Bitch, Food & Wine, Taste, and Wine Enthusiast and hosted the podcasts Popaganda and Racist Sandwich.

Prudie and Ho dig into letters about how to handle anger toward your in-laws even though they’ve moved past their initial homophobia, how to disclose your disability when entering the dating game, what to do when your boyfriend gets upset that you didn’t immediately disclose that you’re an adoptee, how to handle transphobic co-workers after finally accepting that you’re a trans woman, and what to do with a mom who believes your high school girlfriend turned you gay.

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Production by Phil Surkis.

About the Show

Whether it’s a challenge with a lover, a fight with a difficult roommate or boss, or you just like to hear about the challenges other people face, Dear Prudence is the podcast for you. Every week, Prudie and special guests answer questions about relationships, sex, work, family, and life.

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