Big Mood, Little Mood

The “DNA Drama” Edition

I got my husband an ancestry kit for his birthday. It turns out we’re first cousins. Help!


Episode Notes

Prudence is joined this week by Connor Goldsmith, a literary agent at Fuse Literary, specializing in sci-fi/fantasy fiction and a variety of nonfiction subjects.

Together, they tackle letters about what to consider when a DNA kit reveals you married your first cousin, what to do if you want to see a sister who’s living with parents who exiled you for being gay, how to know if you’re ready to open up a 10-year relationship to polyamory, what to consider when your friend with ADHD never reciprocates the support you’ve given him, and what to consider before reaching out to a biological sibling you’ve never met.

Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and Goldsmith discuss a letter writer who is wondering how to handle accidentally buying a home one block away from a horrible ex, and how to handle a husband who is not at all gracious when your parents give him gifts.

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Production by Phil Surkis.


About the Show

Every week, Danny M. Lavery brings on a guest to answer questions from listeners before diving into conversation about relationships, dissatisfaction, drives, regrets, estrangement, embarrassment, self-assessments, and feelings from the monumental to the minute.

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