Dear Prudence

The “DNA Drama” Edition

I got my husband an ancestry kit for his birthday. It turns out we’re first cousins. Help!

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Episode Notes

Prudence is joined this week by Connor Goldsmith, a literary agent at Fuse Literary, specializing in sci-fi/fantasy fiction and a variety of nonfiction subjects.

Together, they tackle letters about what to consider when a DNA kit reveals you married your first cousin, what to do if you want to see a sister who’s living with parents who exiled you for being gay, how to know if you’re ready to open up a 10-year relationship to polyamory, what to consider when your friend with ADHD never reciprocates the support you’ve given him, and what to consider before reaching out to a biological sibling you’ve never met.

Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and Goldsmith discuss a letter writer who is wondering how to handle accidentally buying a home one block away from a horrible ex, and how to handle a husband who is not at all gracious when your parents give him gifts.

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Production by Phil Surkis.

About the Show

Whether it’s a challenge with a lover, a fight with a difficult roommate or boss, or you just like to hear about the challenges other people face, Dear Prudence is the podcast for you. Every week, Prudie and special guests answer questions about relationships, sex, work, family, and life.

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