Dear Prudence

The “Coming-Out Quandary” Edition

How do I come out to my parents and not also out my identical twin? Help!

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Whether it’s a challenge with a lover, a fight with a difficult roommate or boss, or you just like to hear about the challenges other people face, Dear Prudence is the podcast for you. Every week, Prudie and special guests answer questions about relationships, sex, work, family, and life.

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Episode Notes

Prudence is joined this week by Daniel Mallory Ortberg, a lover of peanut butter who—WAIT! Prudence IS Daniel Mallory Ortberg. Buckle up for this rare solo flight.

Prudie tackles letters about how to come out to your parents while also protecting the privacy of your genderqueer identical twin, how to bring up a complicated history of sexual assault issues to your new boyfriend, how to tamp down a tendency to “oversupport” your boyfriend’s acting career, and what to know about starting a conversation regarding your inheritance when you’ve never talked about money with your parents before.

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Production by Phil Surkis.