Dear Prudence

Advice, commentary, and conversation from Danny M. Lavery.

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About the Show

Whether it’s a challenge with a lover, a fight with a difficult roommate or boss, or you just like to hear about the challenges other people face, Dear Prudence is the podcast for you. Every week, Prudie and special guests answer questions about relationships, sex, work, family, and life.

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The “I’m Right Behind You” Edition

My mother-in-law wrongfully accused me of having an affair—in the delivery room, right after I gave birth. Help!

The “Porn Boss” Edition

I saw my supervisor looking at pornographic images and videos on the plane during a work trip. Do I need to say something? Help!

The “Religion Won’t Save Him” Edition

My mentally ill brother recently found religion. I fear he’s using that as a way to hide that he isn’t taking care of himself.

The “Listen to Me” Edition

I’m paranoid about the smart speaker in my apartment. How can I ask my roommate to get rid of it? Help!

The “Stumped About Stumping” Edition

I want to run for City Council, but I’m also anxious about what running a campaign as a woman will do to my mental health. Help!

The “A Hell of a Guy” Edition

My father-in-law was a horrible person. Do we have to lie and speak kindly of him at his funeral? Help!

The “Profiting From Death” Edition

Should I take the fee for executing my parents’ will? It just feels greedy. Help!

The “Why Do I Spy?” Edition

I left my toxic job but I can’t stop snooping in on what’s going on there. Help!

The “Touch Starved” Edition

After moving to a new city, I’m finding out that I miss being hugged and touched by close friends. Help!

The “Not My Best Side” Edition

I just found out that my friend has been sharing photos she took of me while I was in a medically induced coma two years ago. Help!

The “How to Talk Trans” Edition

I’m super supportive of my sister’s transition—but I’m not sure how to mention her to friends and colleagues now without making it a big deal. Help!

The “No Place for Love” Edition

I still live with my ex for logistical reasons, and my new girlfriend lives at home but isn’t out yet. There’s nowhere for us to hang out. Help!

The “Strain of Being Supportive” Edition

My partner just came out as trans. I want to support her, but I’m straight and can’t stay in this relationship anymore. Help!

The “Bisexual Dating Tips” Edition

I’ve never had any problem dating men, but I keep striking out with women. What trick am I missing? Help!

The “Two From 2019” Edition

My wife and I are taking in her sister’s kids after her death. We barely know them. Help!

The “Year in Prudie” Edition

A guest at my wedding pulled out her laptop and did homework during the ceremony. It completely ruined the day. Help!

The “Parked in Peace” Edition

How can I get my family to stop calling the cops on the innocent homeless man living down the street? Help!

The “All Growl, No Bite” Edition

My friend’s husband constantly threatens my dog, even though he doesn’t do anything but howl. Help!

The “Tattoo Anxiety” Edition

I’m looking to get a tattoo. How can I make sure the artist I choose doesn’t make work that appropriates someone else’s culture? Help!

The “Memory Error” Edition

My colleague keeps implying that we hooked up decades ago, but we never did. How do I get him to stop referring to something that never happened? Help!