Dear Prudence

Advice, commentary, and conversation from Danny M. Lavery.

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About the Show

Whether it’s a challenge with a lover, a fight with a difficult roommate or boss, or you just like to hear about the challenges other people face, Dear Prudence is the podcast for you. Every week, Prudie and special guests answer questions about relationships, sex, work, family, and life.

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The “How to Talk Trans” Edition

I’m super supportive of my sister’s transition—but I’m not sure how to mention her to friends and colleagues now without making it a big deal. Help!

The “No Place for Love” Edition

I still live with my ex for logistical reasons, and my new girlfriend lives at home but isn’t out yet. There’s nowhere for us to hang out. Help!

The “Strain of Being Supportive” Edition

My partner just came out as trans. I want to support her, but I’m straight and can’t stay in this relationship anymore. Help!

The “Bisexual Dating Tips” Edition

I’ve never had any problem dating men, but I keep striking out with women. What trick am I missing? Help!

The “Two From 2019” Edition

My wife and I are taking in her sister’s kids after her death. We barely know them. Help!

The “Year in Prudie” Edition

A guest at my wedding pulled out her laptop and did homework during the ceremony. It completely ruined the day. Help!

The “Parked in Peace” Edition

How can I get my family to stop calling the cops on the innocent homeless man living down the street? Help!

The “All Growl, No Bite” Edition

My friend’s husband constantly threatens my dog, even though he doesn’t do anything but howl. Help!

The “Tattoo Anxiety” Edition

I’m looking to get a tattoo. How can I make sure the artist I choose doesn’t make work that appropriates someone else’s culture? Help!

The “Memory Error” Edition

My colleague keeps implying that we hooked up decades ago, but we never did. How do I get him to stop referring to something that never happened? Help!

The “Get Outta My Dreams” Edition

I can’t get this one guy out of my head, even though I don’t even have romantic feelings for him anymore. Help!

The “Surprise Naked Houseguest” Edition

My girlfriend allowed a strange co-worker to live in our home while I was away. She didn’t say anything for two weeks. Help!

The “Weed Thief” Edition

My boyfriend witnessed my friend of 18 years secretly taking some of my marijuana, even though I’m usually happy to give her some. Help!

The “To Serve With Love” Edition

My favorite patron at the bar fell off the wagon. I feel so guilty making her drinks. Help!

The “Tattoo You” Edition

My brother accidentally burned me when we were young. Now he’s making fun of the tattoos I got to cover up my scars. Help!

The “Forever Young” Edition

I’m a decade younger than everyone else in my office. How do I prove that I’m not just a kid? Help!

The “(Grand)Motherlode” Edition

My dad reconnected with his birth mother, but I have no interest in meeting her. Am I making a mistake? Help!

The “Mistress at Work” Edition

The woman my husband had an affair with now works at my office. Help!

The “Where’s My Party?” Edition

I hate big parties. Why am I envious that my partner threw one for their best friend? Help!

The “Their Cheatin’ Hearts” Edition

I’ve caught my mom cheating multiple times, and she keeps begging me to keep the affairs a secret. Help!