Big Mood, Little Mood

Ultracrepidarian Blues

Talking unfair assumptions, delusional siblings, and Carmen Rita Wong’s memoir, Why Didn’t You Tell Me?


Episode Notes

Danny Lavery welcomes Carmen Rita Wong, author of the recently published book Why Didn’t You Tell Me? A Memoir.

Lavery and Wong take on two letters. First, from someone concerned that her brother has been spiraling since going off his meds. Another letter writer is wondering how to extricate herself from her marriage without devastating her spouse. Plus, a deep dive in to Wong’s memoir, Why Didn’t You Tell Me?

Resources for support if you know a family member or friend experiencing delusions.

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Every week, Danny M. Lavery brings on a guest to answer questions from listeners before diving into conversation about relationships, dissatisfaction, drives, regrets, estrangement, embarrassment, self-assessments, and feelings from the monumental to the minute.

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