No Urge to Merge

Talking about slow and steady feelings, and overburdening your partner with guest Jules Gill-Peterson

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Episode Notes

Danny Lavery welcomes Jules Gill-Peterson, author of Histories of the Transgender Child and a co-host of Outward on Slate.

Lavery and Gill-Peterson take on two letters. First, from someone who is feeling pressured to commit to a relationship from their entire friend group. Another letter writer is worried that they are going to drive their partner away by relying on them too much.

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Every week, Danny M. Lavery brings on a guest to answer questions from listeners before diving into conversation about relationships, dissatisfaction, drives, regrets, estrangement, embarrassment, self-assessments, and feelings from the monumental to the minute.

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Danny M. Lavery is a co-founder of the Toast and the author of Texts From Jane Eyre, The Merry Spinster, Something That May Shock and Discredit You, and Dear Prudence: Liberating Lessons From Slate.com’s Beloved Advice Column. Lavery wrote Slate’s Dear Prudence column from 2016 to 2021. He writes an email newsletter at Substack called The Chatner.

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