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Seeking Stable Chosen Family

When you don’t quite want a family, but you do want stable roommates who don’t move away.

Episode Notes

Danny Lavery welcomes Sophie Lewis, the author of essays about octopus sex, theoretical screeds about capitalism, and numerous texts about family abolition, including the 2019 book Full Surrogacy Now: Feminism Against Family.

Lavery and Lewis discuss a letter writer who’s wondering how to cultivate a chosen family of stable roommates. Also discussed are chore wheels and the magic of finger limes.

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Production by Phil Surkis.

About the Show

Every week, Danny M. Lavery brings on a guest to answer questions from listeners before diving into conversation about relationships, dissatisfaction, drives, regrets, estrangement, embarrassment, self-assessments, and feelings from the monumental to the minute.

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