How to Do It

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I’ve Become Absurdly Hot Since I Got Married. My Wife Hasn’t. And That Brings Me to My Dilemma.

Jessica Stoya

I Found a Woman With an Incredible Sexual Talent—but I’m Worried About What I’m Really Doing to Her

Rich Juzwiak

My Husband Is Suddenly Very “Well Endowed”—and That’s Presented a Problem

Jessica Stoya

A Drunken Threesome Has Left My Wife and Me With an Unexpected Problem

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I’ve Had Lots of Sex Through My 20s. I Just Hit My First Big Consequence—and I’m Weirdly Devastated.

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