Every week, Danny Ortberg and Nicole Cliffe discuss a Prudie letter. This week: the roommates’ mom.
Danny: I’m going to (perhaps unsurprisingly) advocate for a “don’t bother trying to have another conversation about this, just save your energy” approach
you’ll be out of here in what, three months at the outside? these kids are getting free rent and/or free housecleaning and didn’t seem to care the first time you brought it up?
Nicole: Yeah, totally.
Three months! Wait it out.
Danny: like, these kids are PERFECTLY happy to deal with an invasion of privacy because they get all the other stuff they want
Nicole: Also, you can mute her texts.
Danny: DEFINITELY mute them
Nicole: She can complain alllll she wants
Danny: if she walks in unannounced, go take yourself on a walk to look for other apartments or to buy ice cream or whatever
Nicole: This is also just … roommates
we all go through this
if you’re lucky, it’s a brief phase of your life
but it almost always sucks
and you learn a lot
Danny: also, lock your door if you’re gonna leave the house while she’s there and you don’t want her cleaning your room for you/going through your stuff
Danny: also, what is this woman’s long-term plan here?
She comes over to her adult kids’ apartment and cleans it every week on-demand?
Nicole: She is not willing to move to the next phase of her dcidfdncd
Which is not, like, Carousel from Logan’s Run
It’s GET SOME HOBBIES
a nice shawl
Danny: go see a movie
Nicole: some bangle bracelets
Danny: ultra marathoning
Nicole: Start watching Grace and Frankie
Danny: but yeah you want to do “adult stuff” and your housemates want their parents to take care of everything and are happy to sacrifice privacy for that
Nicole: They see no problem
Danny: they are making a bad deal and yours is the path of righteousness and i hope you find a great new apartment this week
Nicole: It’s not a problem for them
GO FORTH AND THRIVE
Danny: but i just don’t see you getting anywhere with them over it, so don’t waste your breath
short-term roommate conflict is a GREAT opportunity to just let stuff go
Nicole: So true
Good practice for life
Danny: i look forward to hearing from all of their future housemates one day
Nicole: Shit yes
Danny: they will keep me employed for years to come!