Dear Prudence

Dear Prudence: The “But We Had a Deal!” Edition

My husband and I agreed I could quit my job after he had three years to figure out his own career. Now he says he “deserves more time.” Help!

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Prudence is joined this week by Corinne Segal, a senior editor at Literary Hub. Segal lives in Brooklyn with a preponderance of plants, stacks of poetry books, and an extremely loyal cat named Dill.

Together, they dig into letters about what to do when you notice men gawking at your daughter’s chest, what actions to take when your friends find a good friend of yours extremely off-putting, what to do when you notice that your birth daughter may be gay but is being raised by conservative parents, how to support a loved one with depression even when they’re difficult to be around, and what to do when your husband reneges on his promise to allow you a trial of a creative career.

Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and Segal discuss a letter writer who’s wondering how to set boundaries with his family, who is not accepting of his trans girlfriend.

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Production by Phil Surkis.