Every week, Danny Ortberg and Nicole Cliffe discuss a Prudie letter. This week: the cam-guy acquaintance.
Danny: so full disclosure, the original letter was longer than this and had a bit more of the “IMAGINE my SURPRISE when I saw his face…”/“I never thought it would happen to ME”-Penthouse-style
Nicole: Do nothing, say nothing.
Say nothing, do nothing.
Like, watch it or don’t watch it, but do not reverse-break the fourth wall here, my man!
Nicole: He’s an adult.
Danny: like, being as generous as possible and assuming this is real and that this person truly believes he wants what’s best for this 18-year-old
Nicole: He knows his real name is on it!
Danny: the best thing you can do is….nothing!
Nothing sounds superb.
Danny: because imagine how SINISTER you will sound
if you say “Hey, a lot of people — not me, obviously, but a lot of people — might record your webcamming sessions. I bet your parents would be upset if they know about that!”
Nicole: SO SINISTER
“You shall dance only for ME, my angel.”
Danny: everyone who does sex work or camping or any sex-adjacent work is aware that they’re risking anonymity and most of them know their family members probably have anti-sex-work views
so you’re not giving him any information he doesn’t already have
you don’t have any sort of relationship with him where he normally comes to you for advice or guidance
and you don’t want to hook up with him
so there’s nothing for you to do
Nicole: That’s the thing, for me: you are not his mentor.
Danny: go in peace to find another cam-guy
and frankly if you were I’d still probably have the same advice
Nicole: There are so many of them.
Danny: it’s legal, he’s able to do it without coming into contact with his viewers, it’s relatively safe - he’s not in trouble and you don’t need to protect him
like, why on earth would you tell his parents?
what good would that do? who would that help?
Nicole: That is the suggestion which made me extremely WHAT
WHO WOULD CONSIDER THAT
Danny: it’s not a good idea!
it’s also a little rich
to suddenly be concerned about someone you were getting off to happily a week ago
Nicole: “What if OTHER PEOPLE are also doing this thing I am happily doing!!”
Danny: I hate to say it but
that’s why he’s doing it!
that’s literally why he is doing this!
Nicole: Oh, 100^
Danny: for the money and presumably the fun of being an exhibitionist
Danny: help build a world where people don’t have to fear for their futures or job security or reputation based on their web-camming or related activities
by not threatening implicitly to tell his parents!
also, do bear in mind that telling his parents would necessitate telling a co-worker the details of your masturbatory habits
that is not conducive to a professional work environment!
Nicole: What a good reminder.
Danny: it’s just not information coworkers should have about one!
Nicole: NAILED IT