Dear Prudence

Dear Prudence: The “Good (Not Great) Sex” Edition

He’s the love of my life, but our sex is only so-so. Help!

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Prudence is joined this week by Sarah Shourd, a multimedia journalist based in Oakland, California. Her work combines fiction with rigorous journalism to elevate marginalized voices. She’s now working collaboratively on a graphic novel as a JSK Fellow at Stanford.

Together, they tackle letters about what to do when you find yourself with diminishing social invitations because of your sickliness, how to handle a husband who wants to reconnect with a friend who was convicted of possession of child pornography, how to put the brakes on a new overbearing friendship, what to consider when the love of your life offers you good (but not great) sex, and how to handle a soon-to-be sister-in-law who demands that you remove pictures of your brother’s deceased first wife from your home.


Slate Plus members will hear Prudie and Shourd discuss a letter writer who is wondering how to stop her distant family members from using her beach house without causing a family rift.

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Production by Phil Surkis.