Dear Prudence

Dear Prudence: The “Expensive Bulk Food Grazer” Edition

My friend grabbed handfuls of nuts at the store and ate them without paying. Help!

Prudence is joined this week by Paola Dayanan, a TV-obsessed HR professional from northern Virginia. First, I’ve taken some time off from work because I’m struggling with anxiety after two devastating losses, and now my manager thinks I should look for a different job—what should I do? Next, I watched in horror as I watched a friend grab handfuls of expensive bulk snacks while walking through the grocery store without paying—isn’t that stealing? Then, a friend group questioned my sexuality after some brief comments I made, and now I’m wondering if this is worth revisiting with them.

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