Dear Prudence

Dear Prudence: The Live “Cruise Ship Romance” Edition

I want my brother to come out to me, but I also want to respect his privacy. Help!

Our first live show! Prudence is joined onstage at the Brava Theater in San Francisco by writer and advice columnist Nicole Cliffe and lawyer and novelist Jasmine Guillory.

The team helps a writer trying to find out how a former partner died when their only connection is through Facebook. I want to tell my brother I know he’s gay, but I want to respect his privacy too—how can I show my support? I told my partner about my racist upbringing, and it seems to have struck a nerve—what can I do? And lastly, how can I set boundaries when my parents and in-laws keep score of who visits our baby and when?

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