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Dear Prudence: The “Dirty Secret” Edition

I cheated on my partner, but I want to break up for other reasons. Do I need to come clean? Help!

Advice enthusiast and diversity consultant Valerie Aurora joins for a discussion of keeping your Christmas costumes away from Thanksgiving and affordable alternatives to therapy.

Then onto your letters! First up: My best friends are growing closer and leaving me behind. Should I tell my boyfriend I had an affair even though we’re breaking up anyway? I just found out that a former co-worker who assaulted me changed his name and became a doctor—should I report his violent behavior to his work?

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