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Dear Prudence: The “Good Grief” Edition

A stranger got mad at me for not letting her child use my iPad. Help!

YA fiction writer and advocate for the disabled Maggie Faid joins Prudie to consult on matters of wedding guests, grief, and giving iPads to strangers. Should I tell my best friend how sad I am that she can’t come to my wedding? My sister tells everyone that she lost a child, but I don’t think a miscarriage counts. A stranger got mad at me for not letting her kid play with my iPad—did I do something wrong? My wife has a life-threatening illness and wants me to move on—should I heed her wishes? Can I tell my brother not to spank his children when my kids are around? Is it self-serving to offer condolences to someone I hardly know?

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