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Dear Prudence: The “Hot Mess” Edition

My wife came out after four years of marriage. How do I let go of the life I imagined for us?

Former Toast editor Nikki Chung joins Prudie to tackle a thorny bunch of your letters! First up: I’m living with a slob, and I can’t afford to move out. How do I get my husband to be kinkier in the bedroom? Should I stay in this relationship if my boyfriend says he can never love me? I might have prompted my daughter to make a false accusation of sexual abuse—what do I do? I can’t fall out of love with my lesbian wife. How should I split rent with my partner? And finally: Is it selfish not to go to my boyfriend’s sister’s wedding?

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